Fucking around with the details

Actual post later. Right now, I want to try a few things.

It's that denial, too, that leads people to bitch at women for 'playing games' when what they're doing is trying not to get hurt yet again. We're talking on the previous post about how men complain about women using sex as a weapon when in fact it's soemthing entirely different. This is one I don't get at all. Have a fight, then fuck? It doesn't work that way. Call her names, tell her she's awful--then expect her to fuck you? Who's playing games here or not? She feels awful, and you don't care. In fact, does her feeling awful make you feel better? More in control? And manipulating her is just icing on the cake. But then you get to turn around and she's the manipulative one. Not only are they good guys, but they're the victims of those game-playing women. None of them much seem to care that they're creating games and stacking the deck. There's that denial again. --from Ginmar's Livejournal, which has a great discussion on Rape Culture today.